Sex in Society

I was reading the blog of a friend who noted how many seductive/suggestive, and downright whore-ish websites she ran across in another "community" of bloggers in the blogesphere. So it prompted her to ask the question "does sex get you what you want?" You can imagine she received all manner of answers, ranging from super conservative to super (dare I say it?) "liberal". What I mean by liberal is, someone (a female), answered the question with one word, "yes!" I thought to myself..."ok then, sista/girl..."

Brotha Wynn and I frequently discuss this issue of how rampant casual sex is in our society today; and how distorted the concept of sexuality has become. We have children who are entering into young adulthood now, and the realities of their world are just different from what we faced as kids growing up. Just going over the past 40 or so years of television shows has been a real eye opener. As kids, we never saw skin of any kind (not even on bra commercials - some of you might remember the bra worn over a leotard-like top). On the sit-com series, married couples slept in twin beds. (which I thought was silly since my parents slept together...but it was cool). It was the norm; it was accepted. And, it was healthy. Sex education was largely left to the parents.

I've been on blogs where some have mentioned getting back to the old school ways of sex being a (joyful) byproduct of a love relationship. And I agree. Of course, we know that throughout time sex has been used to exploit, excite, entice, control, etc. And for many of us, when we were young and ignorant, we thought we could do anything we were big and bad enough to do...without suffering consequences. The worse that could happen was... VD, that a shot could cure... or pregnancy. Growing older has shown me some important things through experience....and, thankfully, my mind has been forever changed.

Sex between two committed/married individuals is truly the most fulfilling experience, in my humble opinion. And my faith/belief system, tells me that the only folks who should be "gettin some" are married folks. I'm sure there are those out there who will disagree - but we need only look at the end results of engaging in numerous/multiple casual encounters and be honest with ourselves. Sex is pleasurable, no doubt... and between committed lovers, it can be the means and the end - with no fear, no inhabitions, and no negative consequences.

And I will submit that aside from the obvious pleasure factor... good sex produces the best of all fruit. I have three.